Reddit aita disabled This wasn't even related to his disability, it was about his laugh. It's just plain easier and cheaper to hire someone who doesn't have a The state would take custody, get them set up on disability/medicaid and they would be placed in a government funded care facility. AITA for not being able to get past her recent outbursts and the affect on my parents as well as myself and brother. Exactly- it’s one thing to ask the non-disabled child to take guardianship/fiduciary responsibility: when there’s a medical/housing/care plan, finances and whatnot to manage for the disabled child. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I may have been TA for not letting my homeless disabled sister move into the basement even though my kids dont know her that well and I don't want my kids to have to Emily is disabled and because of that my parents dedicated themselves 100% to her leaving the rest of us to fend for ourselves. Additonally I think many other disabled posters here are sharing their experiances for a reason. Just because someone is disabled doesn’t mean they deserve to be treated like loyalty or are unable to learn and people forget this, especially parents of disabled children. I am also a sped teacher. She constantly berates others and uses her disability as an excuse. I had managed to get some good tickets for a great price. His daughter from a previous relationship is getting married soon and I have been invited to the ceremony. So when they ear about another disabled person they give for given that as they have it worse we must jeopardise our mental health. Before the podcast started reading reddit stories, the hosts would choose a topic and research it using Wikipedia. Please stop straw-manning me, and don't use terms you can't put into context. i didn’t think much of it until problems started happening. we've been together for the past 5 months and he got into an car accident (wear your seatbelts, people) that has left him paralyzed waist down. Short read. Teaching her son to use his disability to get his way is a really, really bad life lesson. this is a community like r/AmITheAsshole except unlike that subreddit here you can post interpersonal conflicts, anything that's AITA but is not allowed there even posting about Scar from the lion king and trying to convince redditors that he was not the AH. and her mother loved her with every part of her being. We have been fortunate that in his 30s he is able to care for his own need with support from the local regional group. Sounds like OP is TRYING. Sister's disability checks do not represent financial ability to "contribute" to a mortgage. In fact, even on reddit, many of the workers of such facilities have stated that they outright fled because their employer does not have enough manpower or this is a community like r/AmITheAsshole except unlike that subreddit here you can post interpersonal conflicts, anything that's AITA but is not allowed there even posting about Scar from the lion king and trying to convince redditors that he was not the AH. My mother suffers from a disability and as such is permanently bedridden. " The teachers are there when this happens but takes on a babying approach, like a "Jackson, you're interrupting. I have an official card that allows me to park on special spots. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: That I parked in a disabled parking spot though my mom limps but can walk fine with a crutch until she can get to a trolley. So reddit, AITA? EDIT: Because people keep asking, Younger sister cannot consent or discuss being in the wedding. by dummie269. He has two daughters (17F, 10F) and I have a daughter (11F) and a son (14M) "Ethan". It is frickin horrendous for your mother to say that, and unfortunately the sad part is that there's a non-zero chance this is the mentality she's been carrying for years. He still decided I was worth the change and we married- and sometimes it's really,really hard. At the bare minimum, call out people who laugh at or make hurtful and dehumanizing remarks about people with disabilities, all I knew very little about my sister besides the fact she was mentally disabled (since my mom came back I've seen my sister maybe 3 times a year. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. It blows my mind And that I’m just making things difficult for no reason. At that point I was not aware that she was disabled, but when she got back into her car she never got out again. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I really yelled badly at my disabled cousin and i think she got hurt and maybe i should have behaved in a good manner not yelling He needs the financial benefits that the government provides for disabled individuals. If op and her brothers outlive sister, they take it. With this disability I have issues with walking long distances, I do have a wheelchair and walker to help me get around but, when it comes to grocery stores I usually like to use the mobility scooters that are available. My daughter (1F) has Down Syndrome and has the same card. He is genuinely my (40F) best friend. AITA disabled daughter . She needs professional caregivers in home or out of home to learn to advocate for herself. I have a handicap pass, but I often don't use it if I am having a good day and leave the handicap spots for the others who really need them. AITA for making a disabled woman pack and move (now that she has a house to move into) asap so I can sell my property? I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Sara, 24, has a job but lives at home. AITA for enabling my disabled cousin? Backstory: I (M23) have a cousin (M18) who is developmentally delayed but high functioning - goes to college, integrates into society reasonably well but is noticably "off" - basically his personality is as if he were still 13/14. It will allow you to grow and reduce her ability to get under your skin. i worked with this family for about a half hour educating them on fish care. i feel like i should of bit my tongue and said nothing Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. AITA for telling my disabled daughter to fuck off with having aspirations? After all she disabled and my two perfectly healthy new children are here so I can just But the level of disability OP described isn’t typically in children’s books. AITA for not wanting my disabled SIL to come live with us? My husband and I have been together for about ten years. She has support workers who come by throughout the I'm disabled with back pain, which is very much an invisible disability. Plenty of places do this in Australia, especially to disabled people. bride texted me saying she and my cousin have always walked on egg shells around me to make ‘accommodations for my handicap and feelings’ this is the least I can do for them. I (48F) have 2 daughters, 22F and 24F. NTA - if your grandma gets hurt or the disabled person gets hurt, your grandma will be SOL and be liable. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: i believe i may be the asshole because my mother needs me, she’s disabled and can’t do much on her own. im also neurodivergent (autism). It is part if my job to explain why certain behaviors (such as bombarding others with messages after boundaries have been set) are not acceptable. I have both physical (lots of joints problems and knee malformation) and psychiatric disabilities (I'm autistic). Otherwise it's a NSR (non-service related) disability which is a different classification by the VA. Cooking, cleaning, showering, laundry, pressure area care, exercise needs, shopping, medical appointments, emotional needs, other support needs list is endless. Also my mom or my brother don’t have beds, my brother (27M) sleeps on the floor on my mom (61F) sleeps on a chair in the kitchen if that helps. My siblings (my brother and my disabled sister) always side with her and start yelling at me for stressing her out. He posted in r/AmItheAsshole. AITA for hating the disabled? awards I (47M) have a son (22M), who recently started dating another guy (22M). Being an asshole and being disabled aren’t I (26F) am getting married soon to my amazing fiance Liam (30M), and I’m struggling with whether or not to invite my cousin, "Tom" (29M). She needs to stop comparing herself to everyone else like that. Traveling while disabled is a lot more work and I don't blame people for getting frustrated, especially when they're in pain. Although it is a fact that she is disabled, your reasoning was because you had already worked on a scene with 4 people, and with her it would be 5. She had a rule about no children under the age of 10. 90% of the population however are not disabled and not all of the 10% are invisible disabilities, so there was a good chance the person wasn't disabled. We have hung out here and there over the the reality is- disabled people shouldn’t be pitied into joining team sports they can’t preform in. AITA for refusing to boycott my husband's party and photoshoot in light of him wanting to exclude my disabled son from it? My (42F) husband (48M) of 3 years and I have a blended family. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. NTA. Published to Reddit 's controversial r/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman under the anonymous username u/cherrywasheree shared her story to get unbiased opinions from the "AITA" community. Children are the bane of AITA's existence. while we were stopped looking at canned soups I notice that there was an elderly lady accompanying a dude that was wheelchair-bound (before I get any flack about this - like he was literally bound to the wheelchair like with straps so I think saying wheelchair Posted by u/JimmyTehF - 106 votes and 46 comments Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. You can move out and move on, but your parents will care for her until the end. My friend is disabled and chronically ill so she leaned heavily on me for support. She pays $500 for rent monthly. She may qualify for disability waiver in home services. Her disability has increased greatly and she can't care for herself. I didn't know though how bad it was) so I many disabled people who rightfully should use priority seats, in my opinion + experience, move for others too easily. Context matters. That’s it. I was working at my family restaurant and we have patio service in Hell, you can even volunteer to help disabled folks out or, if you have the means to do so, you can donate to causes that help disabled people. There were two other judges and this was the final round of the competition with only 3 people remaining. R thought that story was awful. But, as a mother in reddit’s famed-AITA subreddit found out, there are limits to what you can ask of your children and their futures — and that word “ask” is pretty essential in really allowing So, when a frustrated wheelchair user decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about their friend's phony/exaggerated 'disability,' people were ready to deem a verdict. "Normal" children can develop a disability at any point, and for that matter can and will fail to act the way you want them to. Dave has a Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. AITA for kicking out my disabled husband? I, (59F) have been with my husband (55M) for a total of 20 years. That is u/GildanDryBrand. Easy to say when you have had ZERO experience with full time care for a disabled person. Terms & Policies Go to AmItheAsshole r/AmItheAsshole • by ProfessionalKing6432. I (M16) am disabled myself. Disabled and chronically ill people can be abusers too! Folks leveraging their disability or chronic illness as part of their abuse is not at all uncommon! It is fine for you to want to establish boundaries and limit contact with your mother. the family included a mother, and grandfather, and a child with an unknown but very apparent disability (my best educated guess would be autism). When Max left for college I became the main caregiver for my siblings + all household chores were my responsibility. No no no, this is not your fault. And writers are always told to "write what you know". Since my first year of school, I have been in the same class as a girl who has a disability. I was hesitant to say disabled but it seems to be some sort of disability. Being disabled is not within her control. this happened last night when I (23m) and my roommate Brittany (25f) were at the grocery store picking up some supplies. I’ve worked in mod/severe with plenty of students who are nonverbal WITH low cognitive ability (doesn’t matter the disability). So to break the tie I'm asking Reddit. My wife and I have a son who’s 13, but also is special needs and developmentally behind. that creates a divide between typically abled athletes and disabled athletes. Comparing your disabilities is also a bad look for her, because nobody wins when you play the Oppression Olympics. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. . In today’s story, one conversation that starts with small talk escalates to guilt and obligation super quickly. OP, obviously you're within your rights to use your own driveway and obviously she's out of line throwing a tantrum about it, but don't sneer about how she's not really disabled, just fat, and don't make glib ignorant comments about how many other options which sounds terrible to some people but i had a friend whose daughter was born disabled because of the doctors negligence (obviously there was no way an abortion would help here). not really sure but I think Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. so i work at a pet store, and a family came in to buy fish. If you wouldn't be okay with a disabled child then don't have children at all. 2: the asshole: It makes me a possible asshole because I am not doing the "expected thing" by If you’re close, I would suggest having an honest conversation about how none of you are “responsible” for taking care of such a hateful person. Please use hush/soft voices. Yeah, wouldn't that also require that she get a van for it? Not an expenditure people can make at the drop of the hat. And they're upset as I 'promised to hold it' I had not, I said I would do my best but couldnt promise. Your disability is different from his but is not more important and it does not mean you are more entitled to the seat. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I went into a disabled bathroom without a physical disability, I feel like I could be the asshole because I just used it for my own comfort and without a physical disability Pool therapy has wonderful benefits for people with a variety of disabilities, but if that's what she wants for her son they need to find a place that offers it. Recently they’ve been talking about having a child, the rest of i don't think you need to feel bad for resenting your brother but caring about your friends who have disabilities, because disabled people aren't a monolith. In some cases its completely legal to pay them less than $3 an hour when our minimum wage is $22 an hour. But they value men > women, able bodied > disabled, cis > trans, and straight > gay. There is nothing bad about making fun of a disabled person, especially if said person enjoys it/doesn't mind. If no kids, there are other options to ensure a fair share. My concern is frankly. I (38F) am disabled. It's a little bit hard to understand the scope of paperwork in being responsible for a disabled relative until you are actually in the position. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my disabled sister that the world does not revolve around her and then I went somewhere inaccessible without her when she told me not to go. 2. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I wanna know if it is inappropriate to tell a disabled person to leave my property because she has already enough problems and 2. for just not wanting to be friends with someone due to a disability, this is a different situation. In no sane world does anyone say “take over the total care and financial responsibility of this person so we don’t have to worry about it”. Every public transport I’ve been on has designated seats prioritised for the disabled AND a strong culture of giving up your seat for pregnant or disabled people. Our mother died last month, it hit L the hardest because she was his carer. He needs to be under the supervision of a social services agency that provides care for adults with disabilities, so that a team of professionals (doctor, nurse, PT, My ex (41m) is disabled and uses a wheelchair because he cannot walk and can barely move his arms. Taking the posts seriously is heavily discouraged. since the accident he has been bedridden. I have Celiac disease and lots of other health issues. The lines between friendship and NTA. We have three young kids and a fairly hectic life, as you can imagine. Knowing his disability and the extent of it helps in determining an answer to your question. Dating someone with a disability is so different than living with them. AGAIN, WHAT I AM SAYING IS FACTUAL AND I work with adults and teens with disabilities. Tom has a developmental ASD isn’t a mental health condition because it’s not a mental illness. I have actually had people who weren't handicap yell at me for taking a regular spot. So this is why people are begin harsh. The only way that this scenario isn't illegal is if OP and the disabled person have the same claim, which includes having both informed the airplane or both haven't. While he came out as bi since he was 15, he only dated girls before, so I was surprised to find out that he started dating a boy sometime ago, but I was still accepting of his relationship, even inviting him and his boyfriend over for Reddit iOS Reddit Android Reddit Premium About Reddit Advertise Blog Careers Press. Disabled sister has been a “precious jewel type”. JUST BECAUSE YOU KNOW SOMEONE WITH A DISABILITY OR WORK WITH PEOPLE WITH DISABILITIES DOESN'T MEAN THEY HAVE THE SAME CAPABILITIES AS YOUNGER SISTER. He has always been somewhat disabled, weighing almost 600 lbs when we met, and worked low paying jobs for most of our time together, while I have been the bread winner. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. You also have to take into account that many people aren’t super comfortable around people who have Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Or check it out in the app stores AITA? Archived post. My wife and I33 were invited to my sisters wedding. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I think the action I should be judged on is how I reacted to Cassidy’s phone call and me feeling that she’s being inconsiderate might make me the asshole. Some days I'm fine and function mostly normally, and other days I don't know how I'll walk to the bathroom. Considering that 7/9 children are already physically/mentally disabled the chances of the unborn child being born with a disability is already incredibly high regardless of her age, so adding the age factor has highly like guaranteed the unborn child will be born with a disability. So it was not for disability that she wanted the space but just to be closer to the school to pick up her child. The disabled seating is for people with disabilities and whilst you both have disabilities and and are entitled to the disabled seating he was there first and is not required to give it up for another disabled person. Now I don't think AITA but I've had some friends say I am. Residential facilities have 24 hour staffing and multiple support professionals dealing with each person. My mother has many No, fuck off. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: AITA for kicking out my neighbour from Your reminding her of your disability and its impact on you somehow makes her insecure and uncomfortable, so she wants you to stop talking. I [37f] have a disabled neighbor [30f] who I've lived near for about 7 years. Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. What you did is no different. AITA for telling my disabled husband it’s time he went back to work? The people saying this is above Reddit's pay grade are right since this involves topics most Redditors won't personally understand, such as what it feels like to be severely injured and become disabled overnight. You can use your mobile permit in your spouses car or rental. NTA I (16M) go to highschool. this child was not expected to live to one, she survived to seven. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my friend that she doesn’t have a real disability, I might be the AH because I said it out of anger and perhaps should have been more empathic and AITA likes to claim their open to everyone, and how open they are. The fact that he can't walk doesn't mean, that you can't joke about him. There is a mentally disabled man in our neighborhood who kept standing in front of my house with a butcher knife because I had asked him to leave my yard because he was threatening my 10 year old daughter. AITA? AITA for purposefully making a kid with a disability lose a talent competition? Not the A-hole I was invited to judge a music talent show contest for teenage kids. PSWs and nurses are qualified for exactly these sorts of jobs and reasons. You know your sister’s disabilities better than this random coworker and so does she. Her actions were extremely shitty. He's mentally disabled so that's why he is there and I love my nephew, as does my wife, so we regularly visit him. the child would go into my brothers room and break his things. You do not owe anything to an abusive parent, even if they are disabled. Members of the disability community know that no permit means no park and the ordeal of being towed is a far bigger punishment for us than it is for an able bodied person. First of all, the fact that you describe her as [looking] "only physically disabled" is absolutely gross. this subreddit is for a podcast called reddit on wiki, that reads reddit stories. Family say that was an AH move since we technically could’ve just held the baby for the entire flight so that the stranger was also comfortable and that that’s part of living in a society AITA for leaving my disabled mom with no caregivers after giving her over 6 months notice? TLDR: I moved in with my disabled mom(65) to get back on my feet after a divorce and caring for my 5 year old and finishing school. It's not different for those of us who are disabled in some way. There is a AITA for leaving my disabled friend behind as she was late? Not the A-hole I (25) and my friend (22F - A) had made plans to go see a concert. the child would have breakdowns that i didn’t know how to handle, he would take away electronics and misplace Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Shouldn't be a dick to anyone, but especially not to the disabled. Or check it out in the app stores AITA for parking in a disabled bay and being sarky about it Not the A-hole I parked in a disabled bay and put up the disabled badge that I have for the car. Disabled lady needs to find herself an actual caregiver in the profession who can do the work. None of that matters and that's the point. I am not the original poster. H. I have an invisible disability and have have gotten shit from people who do know about it, professors in particular. I would spend serious time changing your “ guilty” mindset. That me recounting it as a joke sends a weird message, like making fun of experiences many disabled people face daily, and at the time I probably should have asked for those photos not to be used as I wasn’t actually disabled. In my opinion YWBTA for cheating, but then I don't believe there is a valid reason to cheat on a monogamous partner under any circumstance. " If he weren't disabled, I would react the same. Throwaway for the usual reasons I go to the gym a few times a week as it's something I enjoy. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: Told my wife to stop being a pushover or I If a disabled person has more than 2000$ in a bank account they can lose status forever and owe tons of back payments. As you adapt your environment and methods for getting things done you (hopefully) gradually stop making unhelpful comparisons of life before and after disability. Or what it feels like to take care of a spouse that The parental home is not always the best place for disabled people. rules: don't berate others and no pornography we have children here AITA for thinking that only those with disabled plates or permits should park in disabled spaces regardless of who they are in the company? I think a better solution would be to designate specific parking spaces for those employees who think they are The only part OP has any need to apologize for is the using slurs and shaming her for her disability. They can't understand that, disabled cousin or not, it's OP's car and he decides who he takes for a ride. He has been there full-time. 22F, Lily, has autoimmune issues, heart issues, and got a diagnosis of chronic fatigue syndrome 2 years ago. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I think I might be asshole because I refuse to let my mom live with me. especially at this age. The action in question is making a They’ll investigate (his physical disability is enough to classify vulnerability) and in certain cases, even if a type of abuse is found, they can simply offer (but not force) help to a mentally capable adult, but they can argue in front of a judge that a mental eval is needed in order to clarify that the vulnerable adult is of sound mind if A place to satirize, crosspost from, poke fun at, and hold meta discussions on the never-ending ridiculous stories and creative writing exercises from AITA and AITA-adjacent subs, including classic tales of your local reddit heroes seeking validation. There were reasons for both a disabled and non disabled person to be in that spot. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: (1) I took away the keys from my vehicle that is more accessible than my daughter's, leaving my daughter with mobility issues to use the other accessible vehicle. And, that they can Like they speak to him how you would a child and other students do so as well. it would be different if you were like "i hate him for Ableism characterizes persons as defined by their disabilities and as inferior to the non-disabled Suffice it to say I do NOT consider people with disabilities inferior, nor do I have a social prejudice against them AND I have not discriminated against disabled people. Saying that, your relationship is on its knees and your bf isn't helping by refusing to get the help required to adjust to his new reality. Third, how many handicap spaces are available in the designated parking area, if any? From a legal view, if there aren't enough handicap spots to accommodate potentially handicapped tenets, then your apartment complex is in violation of the Americans with Disabilities Act and need to fix the issue (without violating the terms of your lease). Like you shouldn't push someone's wheelchair unless they request it because their disability isn't being unable to use a wheelchair. and am happy to discuss further but for the purposes of being concise on So Reddit help me out here AITA? TL:DR parents think I'm the AH for not telling them my BF of a year is disabled and in a wheelchair. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: The action I took that might make me the asshole is refusing to care for my severely disabled step brother. Intellectual and developmental disability doesn't have a "look". So Reddit, AITA? Edit: a lot of people are asking this, I’m in the USA Archived post. I'm the only person who lives with her in the family house. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my family I did want to be responsible for taking care of an adopted family member with a disability. Exactly. She is the adult and you are the child. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: 1: the action: I am applying to no longer be my nephew's carer. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: While on a group trip, my friend who has a disability, continuously chose to not take her medication. You need to be at least 80 % disabled to get the card. Not only for her sake, but for your parents', too. This was a solid parenting decision that seems to have worked out pretty well! Just because she’s disabled doesn’t mean she’s entirely helpless as some (primarily able-bodied people) may imagine a person is when they hear the word “disabled”. However it's not the fault of the workers on the ground that corporations don't care about us. If you have disability plates and your car is in the shop, you have to plan around that. Your mom needs therapy. In the two major cities I’ve lived in, people leap to their feet when someone with a cane gets on (1) everything goes into a third party special needs trust for the disabled child (2) anything remaining after disabled child dies gets split 3 ways. This badge is not for me but for my dad who is allowed one under a hidden disability Yes, some people use disability (or disabled relatives) as a free pass to get whatever they want. I rarely use The point is, the fact that the sister is autistic has no bearing on this situation. AITA for “making” a “disabled” person to leave my patio . She is still working. So maybe, "AITA for not wanting to add a new member to our group project because it would mean starting over?" The fact that she was disabled had nothing to do with your decision. I'm a high school senior (18M) and promposal season is currently in full swing. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: Parents are supposed to put on a United front, and my wife feels I disrespected her wishes and because I work a lot she will be stuck with the grunt of the work. the entire time i worked with them, the child kept walking toward me and getting incredibly close to Probably due his disability, but its possible he's just a jerk that happens to have disabilities. Also there are other spaces 20 metres away which were also taken up by people who arrived early. That difficulty or even impossibility does not mean that others should be harassed. it’s frustrating if someone makes a team who does not have the skills- Want some freed, live, discussion that neither AITA nor Reddit itself can censor? Join our official discord server. I was thinking a heads up would’ve been nice but apparently that’s ableist so I feel like you just get whatever reaction a 2 1/2 year old gives and try to navigate from there. YTA You have Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. She’s just an asshole, separate entirely from her disability. A place to satirize, crosspost from, poke fun at, and hold meta discussions on the never-ending ridiculous stories and creative writing exercises from AITA and AITA-adjacent subs, including classic tales of your local reddit heroes seeking validation. Also, she's disabled. If your kid, as the disabled person, chooses to use another descriptor for themselves, more power to them, but the phrase differently abled needs to go. It sucks that cities aren't built with disabled people in mind, but that means we have to be prepared and know our limits. During a very good natured argument, one of my coworkers told me "bah, I'm not afraid of you, I could end you with a loaf of bread" and that was an absolutely Also, having a reserved spot does NOT mean that is the only place you can park. Disabled people, especially with mental disabilities have a hard time keeping in with societies rules and expectations. like, i bet your disabled friends aren't regularly violent and don't break your shit, no wonder you're cool with them but not him. i would get paid 20 dollars at the end of the week for babysitting him for 3 days. We get along on most days for the sake of our kids. I know reddit is full of genius teenagers with perfect You don't have to like her, loving her may be hard since she hasn't/won't mentally develop much, but please be nice to her. Even non disabled individuals have to work for free to get Gov support payments even if you are medically not able to work at all or have a young child at home or studying. AITA for leaving my disabled mother . (Obligatory I am both physically disabled and neurodiverse but do not pretend to speak for all disabled and nd people) Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. i use forearm crutches due to ME/CFS and occasionally a wheelchair when it gets bad and an injury i had as a kid that never healed right. I(20 F) am currently living at home with my mother, her boyfriend and little brother(14). My SO (39M) doesn't drive, it's I 40 female had been disabled since birth, spina bifida to be exact. So the big thing about learning to live with a disability is adaptation—practically and attitudinally. But this isn't an AITA about him, and I'm not going to immediately say a disabled person is an AH without actually knowing their sitch. disabled people of all types often get told they are not ‘disabled enough’ in one way or another, and i’ve seen so many people who’ve had this mindset instilled in them, + they move not out of kindness but out of shame for needing to admit they have needs, or Yeah I think we both used no reason to assume in a bad way there. Just because he's disabled doesn't mean he won't or can't hurt Which caused a bit of a tirade as apparently the disabled gent had been looking for a car for a while, and mine was a great size and price for them. For goodness' sake, Dad's so selfish he's telling her to drive anyway! OP and other disabled folks like myself didn't ask to be born, definitely didn't ask to be born disabled, and may not have all of the perfect or even imperfect accomodations to have what non-disabked individuals view as "independence". Just remember, your sister was awful before she was disabled, now she’s just awful AND disabled - she’s still a jerk, and not entitled to anybody’s assistance after how she’s mistreated them. she lived for her and i mean, it sounds awful but she got hooked on Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: 1. You were 6. This is a neighborhood pool, and the policies apply to everybody. I'm developmentally disabled (autistic) and WAS a model in my teens. THIS. Being disabled does not entitle you to a ride - especially in this case, when it's highly possible the car would be damaged after said ride. People cross-post stories for a chance that our podcast hosts (Sean, John and Josh) will read the story on the show. Yesterday I was there for the first time this year and there was lots of new people which is to be expected this time of year with people making resolutions they can't stick to. Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now AITA for not being supportive of my (disabled) sister having a baby? Not the A-hole I (30F) have a sister (32F) who has a learning disability, she got married last summer to a man who also has a similar disability. This disability regulates her to a wheelchair, with this girl having this disability since the first grade. Refused to allow a tall person with a potential leg related disability and/or injury to use the extra legroom seat we bought for our toddler. For context, my brother, L (31) is disabled, he and was born with a condition that made him born without a chin/jaw. AITA for refusing to make my house wheelchair accessible . I am going to school at the moment and only have a part time babysitting job during school. Original Post: April 1, 2023. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, I disagree about the 'feel bad for her and let it go'. Let’s see Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. AITA for not wanting my disabled brother-in-law at my wedding ceremony? Not the A-hole I (23F) and my soon-to-be-wife (25F) are getting married soon. Reddit, AITA? EDIT to Update: I've since spoken properly with the mutual friends, they've apologised Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Her actions are within her control, so that is the thing she should be shamed for. Or check it out in the app stores TOPICS AITA! Follow the link above to learn more I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. If someone posted an “AITA” & the scenario was that they were in a chair & in the same situation as you, they were nearly pissing themselves, & out walks a person who appears healthy & looked ashamed, & they told them off for using the disabled toilet, what would the response be? Often disabled people would rather you joke and talk about their disability than act like it's something shameful or disgusting. However, this girl is also quite a bully. Yeah, you, OP, punished your bf for being late (even though it's not unlikely that aside from work, he also was late due to disability factors), banished him to the end of the table with strangers he's never met, isolated him while you went dancing you were a bad host and a Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I had been with my now husband, then boyfriend, for a year when I learned I had a disability- that had flared up beyond the point of ignoring because of a new development. AITA for wanting to leave my disabled boyfriend? Not the A-hole ok sooo, I'm still in college and my boyfriend has a full-time job. Every time it was obvious she was "not there". OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I have a disabled parking permit and I am not using it on my office parking space, removing one regular "premium" parking space for my coworkers. My brother was not supposed to do much due to his disability. Memes allowed, shitposts only on weekends. My best friend's brother is profoundly intellectually disabled and so gorgeous he could be a GAP model. (3) management if the trust is not by any of the siblings. For reference my handicap is my autism. You can't control your children. Same thing today only this time I didn’t receive the usual response. While I may have said you were an A. It is a condition, yes, and sometimes a disability, but nothing to do with health or illness. If OP hadn't let the airline know and the disabled person had let the airline know, then the airline would have commited an illegal act by kicking the dog off board. But according to Amy's friend (I don't know that much about it) disabled veteran means disabled due to service. This dude is in a wheelchair and physically, but not mentally (I think), disabled. View community ranking In the Top 1% of largest communities on Reddit. AITA telling my nephew the truth? This story concerns me (26M), my wife (25F), my nephew (16M) and my sister (36F) to some extent. I'm saying you shouldn't treat disabled people like able-bodied people when it comes to their disability, unless they are able to overcome it on their own. Reddit iOS Reddit Android Reddit Premium About Reddit Advertise Blog Careers Press. You literally couldn't save up enough for a single rent payment in half the big cities in the US without crossing that threshold. Because even though his disability doesn't define him (probably, or maybe his career or passion in life center around other people with disabilities), I imagine it's still a big part of his life, if only Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. 5K votes, 289 comments. You don't know if this guy could hurt you or not. Hey man, that crowd acted exactly like the majority of Reddit users do NTA, it sounds like you e got a full plate and help out a lot, but it’s important to remember you can’t take care of others if you don’t first take care of yourself, so setting some boundaries for self care is not wrong in the least, I nderstand your moms got a lot going on too and I’m sure it’s a stressful situation,but there’s nothing wrong with taking care of yourself So, i (17f) used to babysit a disabled child when i was 14 to 15. I'm a seller. I speak for experience I was stalked and still called the “bad guy” since she had a Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I know the tittle sound bad hear me out. He’s in a wheelchair, and fully disabled, we do everything for him. Neurotypical > neurodivergent AITA also loves hating on autistic people, acting like they are bullies, rude, selfish, and children. Disabled isn't a dirty word. That goes against both this sub's rules as well as Reddit's Physical disabilities affect more than just appearance as I’m sure you know, so they might not feel prepared to deal with that. People with disabilities cost companies higher insurance premiums and sometimes require accommodations to do a job effectively. Those of us without disability often daydream about romantic partners being folded into the daily routine, helping out with everyday tasks and things that we've previously been used to doing with family. The OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: (1) I offended my sister by telling her that her emotional outbursts are what cause her to lose Talking to your neighbors can sometimes backfire. Way more structured, supervised, and informed than most families can manage. Someone accusing me of being disrespectful to someone with a disability would really piss me off in a big way. You can't guarantee a perfect child and not all disabilities are noticeable before birth. Source- I worked in a care home that housed 6 severely autistic and mentally disabled adults, their disability funds were paid directly to the care home. OP, please call the police. Reply reply ughnotagain42 Reddit, AITA? EDIT: To clarify, yes, Dave did serve. AITA for rejecting a disabled girl's prom asking? Not the A-hole Alright so today was quite traumatic for me. She saw the original post on Reddit and texted me calling me Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. If not, their kids do. emuocj tgb lgote jjr rvg khzo wggzi lgcobtc uiphhy rvcfr